Lets honor Trayvon by giving him justice

By now most of the nation knows what happened a little over a month ago in Sanford, Fl.



Tell me about yourself. It doesn't have to be about hair. Where are you from? What are your passions?
I am a five-footer, single mama of two from Columbus, Ohio which doesn’t leave time for a lot of passions! However, I do love writing. I am a non-practicing licensed cosmetologist and I have a Bachelor’s Degree in Criminal Justice. So, if you go to court, I can catch you up on the legal logistics and get your do together! J
What do you like to blog about, besides hair?
CurlyChics blog is all about natural hair, but more specifically my hair. I often delve into topics that are influenced by hair such as fashion, community issues and pop culture. Product reviews and time spent breaking bread with family and friends are also topics of discussion.
What is your hair journey, or hair story?
Wow, where do I begin. I have 2 natural hair journeys. One began in 2002 which ended abruptly after 8 months of extreme frustration. I simply wasn’t ready for the commitment and did not possess the will or patience to see it through. Two short years later I started again with my transition. I had big chopped my relaxed hair before so I was not afraid of short hair it’s just not something I wanted to do again. I wanted to grow my hair out and would have done so relaxed or natural. Fast forward to 2012 and my natural hair and I are best friends, except for that annual color I apply to it. She doesn't particularly care for it because it does add to the work I have to do to maintain moisture, etc., however, I love the look and doubt I will ever stop coloring.

How did you feel about natural hair before going natural? How do you feel about it now?
I know that I subconsciously felt only people with “certain types” of hair could pull of a natural look and since I didn’t fall into that category, I never thought it was an option for me. I always loved the look of a full, thick mane but just thought it was unobtainable. Again, there were no blogs, You Tube, strong supportive natural hair communities at this point so I was stuck with my closed minded thoughts and no one to pull me out of them. I was also able to achieve a somewhat curly look by doing twist sets on my relaxed hair so that pacified me for a really long time. Now I know that for me, it is a lifestyle change and it’s a change I embrace daily. It’s like anything – it’s not rainbows and bubble gum everyday but the good definitely outweighs the bad.
What do you think contributed to your mindset change, from thinking your hair wasn't beautiful enough curly, to fully embracing it?
My hair stylist at the time introduced the notion of going relaxer free. I always trusted her judgment and knew she would take care of me once I sat in her chair so when she suggested it, it was a go. Doesn’t mean I didn’t complain and protest the entire time because let’s be real, transitioning is definitely a difficult route to go but I trusted what she was saying. You have to transition your way of thinking simultaneously. She was able to help me envision awesome results so I rode it out. For me it was deeper than hair though. I never thought I was good enough, period – not just my hair but since hair is a physical manifestation, it naturally affected my thoughts on that was well.
How do your views on hair affect how you treat your children's hair?
I relaxed my daughter’s hair at a very young age and I still feel horrible about that to this day but before you judge me, keep in mind that this is what it was. It was automatic – no thought process behind it. This is what my mother did to my hair, what her mother did to her hair, etc. so there you have it. Of course once I made the decision to see what my hair looked like underneath all the years of relaxed hair, I took the same approach with my daughter’s hair. I was struggling with two transitioning heads of hair – not easy. Of course my son is natural and he wears cornrows. Yeah, I said it…his hair is braided and he wears it out on occasion and I love it. I don’t know what age I will cut it to the standard caesar cut but for now I’m happy with his hair.
Do you think your views on hair have affected your daughter's views?
My daughter is a natural hair advocate as well. My views and opinions about life in general affect her and that includes hair.
What are your favorite products?
I have several that I like a lot and I rotate but the ones that never go out of rotation are Kinky Curly Knot Today, Karen’s Body Beautiful Butter Love, Bee Mine Be Hold Butter, and JessiCurl Deep Conditioning. In addition to my shea butter and coconut oil. These are products that I will use no matter what.
What was your go to style during transitioning, and what's your go to style now?
My transition period was inundated with heat, heat and more heat. I flat ironed my hair to death on a daily basis. I always tell people do not transition the way that I did. I had no clue about the damage I was doing to my hair. In my mind, natural hair could withstand anything so what was the difference. I was achieving growth but very minimal but I was told my hair wouldn't grow any longer, that it had reached its long point. I now know that was completely false! When you know better, you do better.
Would you like to add anything else?
Just that I am happy to have come across the natural hair social community. I don’t get into lecturing or telling people how to care for their hair, I simply say utilize your resources.
It will make for a much smoother and enjoyable journey.
This creates about four ounces of oil. I put it in the microwave for 45 seconds, and although the shea butter is not completely melted, it does so by mixing it with a spoon (I don't want to get it too hot, since I transfer it to a plastic container. 45 seconds seems to be the perfect number for that amount of oil).
Now, when I say table spoons, I mean actual table spoons (such as the one you eat soup with). I was afraid that my plastic mixing spoons would break in the hardness of the coconut oil. This always makes about 4 oz. of oil, which lasts me about 2 weeks, and which I use for E-V-E-R-Y-T-H-I-N-G. When I get out of the shower. When I'm styling my hair, when I braid it at night. And my hair just loves it.
What go to mixture do YOU have?
So my 2 month blogging hiatus turned into a 4 month one. When I apologized for disappearing, back in December, I had full intentions (and the complete belief that I would have the time) to begin blogging again. But once again, life happened.
Due to my financial aid I had to take condensed classed (for those of you in college or in academia, if you have dealt with summer classes, then you know what I’m talking about. My college offers summer-like condensed classes, but year around). These classes are intense, and I had a full load of them. On top of that, I achieved my New Year’s Resolution of attaining a second job.

Let me tell you, a full load of condensed classes, plus a 50 hour work week, and no personal laptop, leaves no time to blog. The good news is that I was so focused on my classes that now that two of them have ended I have As in both of them, and in the two that end next month I have 98s in (in both). So that also takes care of another resolution (I did write on the blog that I wanted As and Bs, but in reality I wanted straight As. I’ve never done that before, more out of laziness than anything, and I wanted the challenge and the GPA boost). But this work load also meant no balance. Whatsoever. All my other resolutions fell to the wayside, since I sincerely have had no time. I have not worked out much at all, or meditated, or obviously, blogged.
So now, three months into the year, with two classes less I can begin focusing on those things that nurture my soul, as well as my future, one of them being blogging. I do plan to blog only about 2 times a week (and once I achieve the balance I crave) up that weekly blog post number. Of course I will continue to blog about hair, but I love blogging about other things such as recipes, beauty, and fashion, so stay on the lookout for those posts as well.
Thank you for reading The Naturaliste and for being a part of it. I look forward to continue this journey with all of you.
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